—Abigail Thomas, Thinking About Memoir
MayDay Parade
—Sara Gran, Claire DeWitt and the City of the Dead
You Me At Six
Problems and Solutions
We all have problems and some of us choose to whine and complain about them-totally normal. Life is tough and sometimes it just feels good to do a little complaining. Get it off your chest and have a friend agree with you. But what about when you’re at work and you can’t just complain about your work problems with a coworker?
You know, those days that really try on your patience or when you’re starving and you can’t grab lunch because you’re already behind on a project. Or when a client isn’t getting back to you, your coworkers aren’t pulling their weight, you’ve surpassed your due dates and everything seems to just not be working properly. One “solution” would be to head straight to your boss’s office to complain and explain all that is going wrong in the best possible way, right?
Let’s think about this, so now you’re walking to your boss’s office organizing in your mind all the issues that have come up and how terrible your coworkers are.
Stop right there.
You are already doing yourself a disservice. Your boss doesn’t want to fix your problems for you nor do they want to be a buffer between you and the other employees. Because remember, you may not always be 100% perfect at work either.
So, before you’re ready complain, think of a solution or a better way around the problems. Be a professional. It will speak volumes about your business acumen when you don’t stomp your feet and whine at the problem. You don’t have to have all the answers. You just have to show that you’re more focused on solving a problem than you are on dwelling on its existence.
*If that doesn’t work, then by all means, take it to the boss!
“You don’t get perfect-but I was going to grab this happiness and hold it as tightly as I could. I was going to enjoy it for as long as it lasted.”
― Jennifer Weiner, The Next Best Thing
“Don’t be so main stream that you lose yourself.”
A friend of mine posted this the other day on Facebook and I can’t seem to get it out of my head. I have definitely done this. I’ve gotten so far into what’s new and now that I forgot who I am. I was very selfish and my actions reflected a give and take type of relationship with new people. What could you do for me? What can we trade?
It took reading a few dozen books and blogs from Tumblr to really figure out that you should just give without anything expectations of receiving anything. You give for yourself. By not allowing myself to get so caught up in what’s new and trendy I’ve been able to just step back and enjoy what is now. No more fighting to be this person I really am not.
Mainstream trends and celebrities come and go. It’s forever changing. Being a jerk only will get you so far. Being kind will open doors you never knew were there. Being positive and not caring about what Kim and Kanye are doing or the drama with Lindsay Lohan-it helps you get rid of the judgmental and negative words that associate with them. Why should I care what they are doing with THEIR lives? My life is separate from theirs. I should just focus on mine.
Finding yourself can take a minute or years. Not everyone will like the “new you” but that’s their problem, not yours. Your only consider is being a better person for this generation. We can make a difference. It just takes one person to motivate another and another. Together, we can do spectacular things!
Let’s focus more on us and less on mainstream propaganda. Let’s get to the bottom of ourselves and live.
Live the life we create.
“I think every person who is single should have a dog. I think the government should step in and intervene: If you’re not married or coupled up, whether you’ve been dumped or divorced or widowed or whatever, they should require you to proceed immediately to the pound nearest you and select an animal companion.”
― Jennifer Weiner, Good in Bed
Bring your hedgie to work day!
—― Ernest Hemingway
